Metroplex Mediation provides Christian mediation services aimed at facilitating settlements for parties involved in a broad range of legal, personal, and financial disputes, including family, church, business, trusts, probate, real estate, personal property, oil and gas, contracts, intellectual property, personal injury, interpersonal matters and others.
Gary Moates, J.D., Director of Metroplex Mediation, is a Christian mediator-conciliator-attorney and certified biblical counselor. Gary is a graduate of the University of Texas at Austin McCombs School of Business and the University of Houston Law Center.
Casey Ware, J.D., is a Christian mediator-conciliator-attorney. Casey is a graduate of the University of California Los Angeles and the University of Texas School of Law.
Gary and Casey have 47 years’ combined legal experience. Both are trained in Christian mediation and conciliation by Peacemaker(R) Ministries. Additionally, Gary has been certified in mediation by Dispute Resolution Services of North Texas, Inc. and is qualified for court appointment. He has received certification in biblical counseling from the Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary Riley Center and the Biblical Counseling Institute.
It is our sincere belief that Christian mediation affords parties the most effective means available for achieving highly satisfactory results with regard to resolving both personal and material issues involved in a dispute. By integrating biblical principles, we strive to transform the mediation process from a largely adversarial process in which the parties are pressured to make concessions, into a process that honors God by restoring and protecting relationships and exploring creative solutions aimed at meeting the parties’ needs in a meaningful, tangible way. It is our experience that parties to Christian mediation report a much greater level of real and lasting satisfaction with the final results than can be achieved in other settings.
We encourage the pursuit of settlement through mediation at any stage in a dispute. Mediation is available both prior to and after the commencement of litigation, and may be conducted with or without the involvement of attorneys. Metroplex Mediation seeks to involve each party’s church throughout the mediation process.
When one of you has a dispute with another believer, how dare you file a lawsuit and ask a secular court to decide the matter instead of taking it to other believers! Don’t you realize that someday we believers will judge the world? And since you are going to judge the world, can’t you decide even these little things among yourselves?…If you have legal disputes about such matters, why go to outside judges who are not respected by the church?...Even to have such lawsuits with one another is a defeat for you. (1 Cor. 1-7a)
Prior to mediation, we meet with each party individually. During the individual meetings, we obtain basic information, determine the general nature of the conflict, and examine any previous attempts at resolution. At that time we also provide details about the Christian mediation process, respond to questions, provide and explain the Christian Mediation Agreement to be signed by the parties and arrange for payment of the pre-mediation and mediation fees.
Mediations may be conducted at any site located in or out of the Dallas – Fort Worth area on which the parties agree, including our Bedford, Frisco and Fort Worth offices, a church, a party’s or attorney’s offices, the Fort Worth Club conference facilities, airport or hotel conference facilities, etc. If the mediation occurs at a location other than Metroplex Mediation’s Bedford, Fort Worth or Frisco offices, the facility costs, if any, will be equally divided among the parties. If the mediation occurs at a location over 50 miles from our Bedford office, charges for travel time and expenses will be equally divided among the parties.
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.” (Ephesians 4:31)
METROPLEX MEDIATION’S POSITION STATEMENT ON DIVORCE MEDIATION
Metroplex Mediation has no ecclesiastical authority over the parties to a prospective divorce. Only the church can exercise discipline. If the husband and/or wife are involved in conduct or actions leading to church discipline, only the church can administer that discipline.
Metroplex Mediation will always advise toward reconciliation; however, it’s a fact of life that people will still disregard their church’s admonition not to divorce. Even these marital conflicts, however, can benefit from Christian mediation. Marital conflict impacts more than just the parties. Children, extended family, friends and church members all suffer when divorce occurs. By providing help to couples who seek divorce, Metroplex Mediation can continue to offer help through biblical guidelines and principles for conflict resolution, perhaps helping pave the way for faster healing of relationships and helping one or both parties work toward spiritual maturity. Couples seeking assistance for divorce strictly through their attorneys find the process only grows in animosity. If couples are willing, Christian mediation could hopefully allow for a resolution of the necessary issues in a way that parties begin to put into practice the interactions that are most likely going to continue into the future. While the couple may never reconcile functionally, personal reconciliation might be possible in the future. Such conciliation, even in divorce, might even lead to complete reconciliation. God can and does change hearts.
We will explain to the parties that conciliation is about seeking reconciliation, and this applies to marriage as well. God’s desire is for marriage partners to remain united and not seek divorce except in specific situations; therefore, a mediator will emphasize hope for reconciliation at appropriate times and in a gracious manner.
We will advise the parties that the exceptions mentioned above are not determined by the mediator; it is the responsibility of the church pastor/leaders of the church that the parties attend.
We will ask permission to speak to the parties’ church regarding mediation assistance for the couple. If the parties’ church does not support the mediation-- because they oppose the divorce and the parties are disregarding this counsel—Metroplex Mediation will share the following with church leaders: (i) the purpose and goals of working with the couple, articulating the above guiding principles for the mediator’s work, and (ii) assistance through Christian mediation often helps reduce the animosity naturally created by two parties seeking to do as much as possible to prove one person wrong and the other right. Christian mediation in divorce situations hopefully allows for a resolution of necessary issues in a more conciliatory manner helping parties put into practice the interactions that are likely to continue into the future. While the couple may never reconcile (or even be able to) in the future, personal reconciliation might happen later even if functional reconciliation does not.
Metroplex Mediation’s preferred approach is to provide Christian mediation while continuing to encourage reconciliation and pointing the couple to Scripture and seeking to work with the church in promoting any restorative church accountability the church pursues.
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Metroplex Mediation’s mission is to be the peacemakers we are called to be by seeking genuine reconciliation between people (Matthew 5:9,24). “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.